Adolescence is perhaps nature's way of preparing parents
to welcome the empty nest.
~Karen Savage and Patricia Adams, The Good Stepmother
to welcome the empty nest.
~Karen Savage and Patricia Adams, The Good Stepmother
Jared - 2004
Jared 2007This quote is really true, other Moms of teenagers have told me this in one way or another, that teenagers act the way they do to make it easier on us to let them go. I've been having a hard time lately. How do you let go? My oldest son just graduated from High School and is officially an adult. I don't know how to handle that.
On one hand I am so excited for him to venture out into the world, find his way and experience all their is out there. But...on the other hand I am so scared for him. I want to keep him under my wing, keep him safe and protect him. It seems like only yesterday he was just a little boy, where have the years gone? I'm not that old to not remember how I felt at his age. I wanted nothing more than to get the heck out of Dodge (Klamath Falls, OR) and get as far away from my parents as I could. I wanted to get my own apartment, make my own rules and live my own life. I know all of that is what he is feeling now, but it does not make me feel any better! I still worry about him, just like my Mom still worries about me at age 40! I guess we all have to go through this stage - the letting go stage.
On one hand I am so excited for him to venture out into the world, find his way and experience all their is out there. But...on the other hand I am so scared for him. I want to keep him under my wing, keep him safe and protect him. It seems like only yesterday he was just a little boy, where have the years gone? I'm not that old to not remember how I felt at his age. I wanted nothing more than to get the heck out of Dodge (Klamath Falls, OR) and get as far away from my parents as I could. I wanted to get my own apartment, make my own rules and live my own life. I know all of that is what he is feeling now, but it does not make me feel any better! I still worry about him, just like my Mom still worries about me at age 40! I guess we all have to go through this stage - the letting go stage.
Karen, you are doing such a good job dealing with this difficult time. You have made such progress, I think that just admitting that you are aware of what he is feeling and going through helps you to deal with it.
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What a beautiful family you have. Your son is lucky to have a mom who cares so much and with that you will be able to let him go. He will know that you're always there for him unconditionally. With that knowledge; he can survive anything! You are a fantastic mom! Rachel
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